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    Unrealisk
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    I’ve looked up “reverse hoarding” and came up empty but I am a natural minimalist and over the last 3 years I’ve been shrinking my belongings more and more. My other half moved in last year and he had a considerable amount of items to bring in. I suffered a few anxiety attacks but eventually calmed down and accepted the items. I’m okay with them because they do not belong to me. I don’t want anything. I could live in a hotel room with bare bones minimum. I’ve been in abusive relationships in the past including one where I obtained a restraining order. I want to at least have some things and not hurt knowing I own them. Items overwhelm me and really make it hard to handle. I don’t want to make my significant other suffer from this, he is clean and he’s already made sacrifices. I love minimal but I feel I want to take it to the extreme. I think I still suffer from depression and anxiety even though I try to look past it. I don’t get much pleasure out of anything anymore let alone pay attention to whatever it is… Any idea what’s going on?

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    It sounds like you’ve had some rough times, and they’ve left you with some lingering stress and anxiety. Is it possible that maybe you’re projecting those feelings into your stuff? Get rid of the stuff, get rid of the anxiety. That’s actually not a bad coping mechanism. It’s a lot less harmful than some of the other methods for relieving stress, like alcohol, illegal drugs, legal drugs, anonymous encounters with strangers, bar fights, or producing and starring in your own reality show. But there are other methods to relive stress which might be useful add-ons for you. Exercise. Meditation. Talking to someone sympathetic. A hug…

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    Hording can be triggered by a traumatic experience, or a series of traumatic experiences, so I wonder if there could be a connection. But whether or not a connection exists has very little relevance to your situation. Does having very little stuff negatively impact your life? Does it interfere with your daily living? If so, I would recommend you see a therapist who specializes in trauma. She can help you to explore the issue more than any advice on the internet could.

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