Oh, ick, that's totally rude and thoughtlless. let them decide if they want to fork out the money for two tickrts.
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@Joless -- Okay, now I'm mad. My older brother is gay and that sort of rudeness was all too common until he married my wonderful BIL a few years back; after a while he asked me to write the "I'm so sorry I can't be with you" letters, because it was too upsetting.
Does the bride know that the proposed bridesmaid is partnered up? Could one of her friends pull her aside and point out that she's coming across as rude and possibly homophobic, and that's not a good footing from which to begin a marriage?
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@lucy1965: I get so sad every time I hear of discrimination against homosexuals. The most appalling comments I've ever heard have come from the mouths of "real" christians, "funnily" enough, and I just wish they'd focus on their own lives instead of telling others how to live theirs. If they'd concentrate more on what happens in their own bedroom they might actually be so content and happy that they wouldn't have to judge others. And who are they to judge anyway; let their god be the one to decide and stop throwing the first stones. We've had a rather heated debate lately in Finland after some fanatics publicly started a hate campaign against gay people and it is such an inflamed subject for me now that I wish homophobes would start their own state where they can hate others in peace and quiet. I'm lutheran and my god loves everyone, but in some other christian cases it is fully acceptable to hate between the lines so to speak; don't include someone in a joke, don't invite to a social gathering, don't acknowledge a relationship in a social setting such as a wedding, etc. Hateful. This is one of the few things that make me boil over these days and I apologize if it comes across as a rant, which isn't the intention really.
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I totally agree with you, Nina. Someone's sexual orientation should not be an issue, and I'm at a loss as to why anyone cares about another person's sexuality.
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I read one poster who said that the wedding guests brought their own drinks! That would be an affront that my husband's Italian family would NEVER forget! Guess it is a cultural thing.
I did my daughter's wedding two years ago. It was all self catered at a venue that she rented. I did a cold buffet and it was beautiful! With a cold buffet you eliminate a lot of the hassle of food serving.
We had the wedding and the reception all in the same place, so no one had to get in their cars and travel anywhere. We had both food and an open bar for them when they arrived. My guests had food and drink available to them from the time they arrived until the time they left. Everyone was relaxed, except me. That is the price that you pay for sell catering. Even though we hired some servers, there was still a lot of oversight to be done.
My buffet table was absolutely BEAUTIFUL and BOUNTIFUL!My son and his wife went to Hawaii to get married all by themselves. We gave them a reception at a covered pavilion in a very pretty state park. We rented a large and beautiful pavilion for about $200 and got a liquor permit. It was really nice and accommodating. I was able to decorate and it brought all the food and drink. We had all day to eat and party. It rained some in the morning, but we were in a pavilion and by afternoon it was beautiful sunny.
Personally, I vote for a romantic eloping.
We went to a family wedding last Fall that just knocked my socks off! I have never seen such lavish offerings as they had! I am certain, beyond a doubt, that their destination bridal showers, wedding, and honey moon cost well over $300,000! NO kidding! I don't see how they could afford it, really. I have never seen such as they had! Never!!Posted 11 months ago # -
this was my way of an uncluttered/minimal wedding:
after 18 years of "comcubinage" with this one and only man i eloped with my husband to be, married him and sent postcards telling friends and family that we got married and that we are on a trip to NYC.
that wasn´t planned to be "uncluttered" but i think it was ;)Posted 11 months ago # -
Thanks for the support everyone, some really nice words :-)
@lucy1965 - totally aware, they have been over to visit a couple of times.
I don't really think it's to do with homophobia, at least in the bride's family, though we did wonder if the groom has an issue with it. My partner of 10 years and I have been invited to both the wedding and the hen do (we were both at uni with both parties though).
Who knows! My friend is coming over alone for about a week for the wedding as she really wants to come and see us all, as well as attend the wedding, but it has left a rather sour taste and we'll definitely miss her partner at the wedding.
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Tomorrow is DD's bachelorette party-the day at a local amusement/water park with dinner out afterwards.
Groom's mother, sister, aunt and aunt's 2 kids are also coming.While I won't let her spoil another precious second,
I must say, I am curious how the groom's mother will behave. Guess I'll find out soon enough :)Posted 10 months ago # -
I LOVE facebook invites, because it puts a reminder up close to the event, and I can RSVP without remembering to mail the damn thing.
I don't need any more chores in my life, and mailling RSVPs is one.
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irishbell--how did it go?
our uncluttered wedding was a brief ceremony in the civil registry office (it's Vienna, it had gorgeous architecture) followed by taxis up to the local vineyards and had a little winery arrange everything. It was lovely, relaxed--good people, good wine, and a good party!
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djk--sounds beautiful and totally uncluttered. Glad there were no apparent hassles with outlaws. Contrary to popular belief, amount of fuss and money expended on wedding does not insure against shaky marriages. Good luckto your dd.
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djk-things went well. we all we only together for 5 minutes before she and her daughter went off and rode some other rides. she acted as if nothing had happened, that she hadn't made an ass of herself and yelled at dd and me. no apologies, nothing. the amusement park was roasting hot but lots of fun!
things are great as of today, all ducks are in their rows and all i have to do is go get my mani-pedi tomorrow. nothing. else. but. wedding!
waiting dd's wedding is like awaiting christmas morning as a kid! :)Posted 9 months ago # -
She has a bad upbringing, irishbell. Enjoy your nail session and cross your fingers you will not have to see that awful woman too many more times. Have a wonderful wedding day and congratulations in advance!
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