luxcat, I'm with bandicoot on this - delegate, delegate, then do it some more. I remember someone in another thread (don't know if it was you) mentioning that if she didn't do the house-y stuff herself, it felt like cheating. That kind of attitude does nobody any good - not the person who has it, and not the potential employees who would be earning their living doing that stuff :P
I think no matter how much we all suggest solutions that are about the practical details - the nitty-gritty - like lists, (or no lists in my case). schedules, and all kinds of behavioral tricks we use to bribe ourselves to get stuff done, it's still all a bunch of highly specific solutions that may work for us and might not work for you. But what I think might help you at this stage, is a little big-picture thinking. Specifically, the big picture of your OWN life. Do you like the way your life looks gnawing your fingernails about that stuff? Is the achievement of crossing this off your list gonna count for something a year, or five, or ten down the line, or even in your deepest old age when you're taking stock?
Sure, you gotta do laundry, do the banking, whatever. That's the daily chores - the daily grind :P But you already have a daily grind - the job, which sounds rather less than the kind of all-consuming but ultimately fulfilling vocation-type work (which sustains a sense of self even as it drains energy). As such, you owe it to yourself to declutter as much of all this as possible, to make room in your life for doing stuff that makes you happy, not stuff you feel obliged to do. Trust me, you don't wanna live a life led by duty alone - all that gets you is sorrow and loneliness. I've seen it happen to a number of truly good people, and it ain't pretty.
Just remember that there's more than one way to declutter chores (and by extension, time). For instance, to reduce the frequency of laundry, you might have to add 'stuff' in the form of a couple more work outfits, if you can't afford more frequent household help. Or at the other end, you might decide to replace a conventional hoover with a robotic one.
