Liag- lol! Its a website, and i thought you were making a game of organizing things!
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Lol indeed, Irishbell! Have you gone to the site? I love it.
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@liag: I bet if i took a pic of (part of) my collection display and sent it in, it might make it there too....Thanks for pointing out that website. I know some artsy folks in my family who will love to have a look at it- if they don't know it already.
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Hope they like it. It goes along with the neurosis of uncluttering obsessively!
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I haven't seen PJ in a while... since shortly after her ordination i think. did she say something about being a way for a while? i miss her!
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PJ was going to San Francisco on vacation a couple days after her dad's surgery. But where is Lucy lately??
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ninakk: It would be good to hear from you. Worried a bit....
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Thinking same thing here.
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Hi all!
I'm not quite caught up on a week's worth of posts in the forums, but I can see it's been an interesting week around here ...
A few quick comments, in no particular order:
1. My dad is doing well and is at home, I saw him today and even peeked at his surgical scar, which is nearly healed.
2. I had a good time on holiday, and wish I had come home to a nice neat house - sorry, I've forgotten who posted a pic of what they came home too that was so neat and tiday, but I have to say that I'm jealous, um, I mean, motivated!
3. I teared up a little when I read grey's post above ^ asking about me. Says sappily, "I love you guys!"
4. I am also a little worried for ninakk, and if you are reading this, I hope you knows that you are a marvellous human being who deserves to be treated well and feel safe in your own home.
5. Ella, hope you're not too discouraged by your paper project progressing more slowly than your closet project did. Do you need to re-group in some way, build in more rewards for yourself or take things more slowly, or enlist the help of a friend or find a good book to motivate you or ...? Your closet project showed you that sometimes it's a matter of approaching it in the right way or at the right time, so I'm sure you'll be able to figure out how to tame that paper monster!
6. In case anyone is wondering, the sky is blue in my part of the world ... or at least, it would be if it wasn't night.Now, I'm going to go post in one of the "getting things done" threads!
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yay! glad to have you back PJ!
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Thanks for the warm thoughts once again. I'm completely exhausted and the weekend was the worst of my life. We talked for hours, cried, talked more, watched some tv to clear the heads a bit and talked again. Awful. During the process it became very clear to me that, while I knew I need to work things out on my end in my own way and tempo the way he should as well, I actually have much deeper scars than anticipated. Allowed myself to be a victim, because even if I was in control in the beginning, allowing the bad things to be said over and over, at some point I had heard them enough times to actually get sucked into it and this is the part that hit me yesterday; I really did become a victim of psychological abuse and while thinking I still had control actually had lost slowly when it just slipped away. I need to get to terms with this in me as well as my tendency to blame if not people per se then at least circumstances when I'm scared of failure and everything already mentioned in my fear thread. I have a dear friend who was in love with two guys at the same time, which led to her betraying her boyfriend while having a few-months long affair. She just didn't know what to do anymore and it was a mess, but at some point she chose the boyfriend. Later she said she had to live forever with the knowledge of her being capable of doing such a thing and I think it took her a long time to forgive herself. The knowledge part is what I'm referring to in my case, to know that we have it in ourselves to hurt ourselves and others; it's hard to live with and come to terms with. Thanks again for your support, it means a lot when I've exhausted most options in friends already; I just can't burden them anymore and my family has had enough soon, too. Have the psychiatric nurse appointment in a couple of hours, but can't say I'm looking forward to it even though it will be good for me.
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PJ, Glad you had a nice break and that your Dad is doing well!
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Glad to hear your dad is well, PJ.
Re:lucy, I think she had to take a break, she sounded very fed up in the Uncluttering = Freedom thread.
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@ ninakk, Good Luck with the nurse, take care of yourself and take it slowly, it must be very overwhelming at the moment, an awful lot has happened to you recently.
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PJ: I am SOOO glad that your father is home and doing well!
Ninakk -- I am very relieved that you checked in -- worried about you! We are all human and have within us the full and terrible range of human behaviors and feelings. A friend of mine likes to tell this story:An elderly Cherokee Native American was teaching his grandchildren about life...
He said to them, "A fight is going on inside me, it is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves.
One wolf is evil -- he is fear, anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, competition, superiority, and ego.
The other is good---he is joy, peace, love, hope, sharing, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, friendship, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith.
This same fight is going on inside you, and inside every other person, too."
They thought about it for a minute and then one child asked his grandfather, "Which wolf will win?"
The old Cherokee simply replied: "The one you feed".
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Susan: I love that story - I've heard it before and it's so true. Right now I'm struggling with the bitterness I feel about my job. Even though I'm leaving, I'm finding it hard to leave behind the negative feelings and the things that happened. I'm trying to view it as a learning experience and move on without bitterness, but still find myself cursing (to myself) some of the key players who contributed to my downfall here.
Nina: don't beat yourself up - we all allow ourselves to become victims at times - I did here at my job. I finally had enough and moved on - which is what you need to do. Forgive yourself, acknowledge your part in allowing the victimization to occur and continue, and then move on! Great things await you!
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Ninakk: glad to hear you are ok :)
Mskris: you will recover from your toxic workplace. I felt very bitter about the last place I worked, it was full of bitchiness and nasty characters and people not treated well. After I left the company pretty much imploded, and I was glad to hear that the people who deserved it the most were shown the door. Or better: they had to stay and do the work of 5 people <evil laugh> The decent people went on to better things, I helped a few of them get a job at the much nicer previous workplace where I still had contacts :) I also had my ex-boss from the nice company ring up and ask about one of the awful characters I worked with who had applied for a job with them. I suggested a 10 foot pole wouldn't be long enough :) Stay professional and know that nasty people often get their comeuppance, and even if they don't you are well shot of them!Posted 3 months ago # -
Keep on trucking, Ninakk. You are our hero.
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PJ, glad to see you back and that your Dad is healing well.
Ninakk, even if you feel your situation is too much to burden friends with, do still unload your problems here, we can cope! You will get to a better place with relationships and you do deserve to not have fear.
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Friends feel better when you let them help. And you are the one to set the terms of the type and extent of that help. (You would help your friends, right? You would doubtless feel worse not helping if you could.)
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