Link week

This week on Unclutterer has been filled with numerous links to helpful articles on other sites. I’ll be honest, the first part of next week is going to be the same. Lots and lots of links — good links, hopefully — but lots of links.

Why all the links? On Monday, my husband and I became parents to a beautiful baby boy.

Our little man is an excellent sleeper, so I’ve been able to find great things around the internet to share with you and comment on while he has been napping, but my mind is a bit overwhelmed and original content isn’t flowing. Since we are adoptive parents, parenthood caught us (pleasantly) a bit off guard.

My first link of the day is to a book review professional organizer Julie Bestry wrote about Everything I Know About Perfectionism I Learned from My Breasts. This book, written by the talented organizer Debbie Jordan Kravitz, has been on my to-read list for months but I haven’t yet reached it in the pile. Julie’s review of Debbie’s book, however, has convinced me to jump it ahead on my list. And, since it persuaded me to read the book, I thought it was a review you might wish to read as well.

From Julie’s review:


As a breast cancer survivor, Debbie’s revelations about the necessity of overcoming her perfectionist tendencies (for her own sake as well as her family’s), informed her desire to write this book. But, to be honest, until I had a copy in my hands, I think I was expecting a memoir, even a breasts’ eye view, as it were, of how her cancer and recovery brought Debbie to some sort of epiphany about the challenges of fighting perfectionism.

In fact, while Debbie does share her own story, this book offers much more, both to those of us who struggle with the ideals of perfection and those of us who have friends, family and co-workers whose perfectionism drives their own behaviors. Everything I Know is informative (indeed, eye-opening) about perfectionism, but also offers practical guidance and motivation to those seeking to become recovering perfectionists.

The subtitle of the book, Secrets and Solutions for Overpowering Perfectionism, explains the direction of the text — and shows that this isn’t a book just for women.

69 Comments for “Link week”

  1. posted by Susan on

    Many congratulations on your new arrival, Erin.

  2. posted by Heather on

    Congrats! (:

  3. posted by Amanda on

    Congratulations!

  4. posted by Gumnos on

    Adding our congrats to the mix — new parents of a baby boy too (about a month now) and it’s both exhausting and a great joy. Best wishes!

  5. posted by Michele Connolly, Get Organized Wizard on

    Sometimes off-guard is the best way to be caught!

    Enjoy this wonderful and exciting time, Erin.
    I’m so happy and delighted for you. :-)

  6. posted by Krisha on

    congrats erin (and family) on the new addition!

  7. posted by Erika H on

    Congratulations!

  8. posted by Kristen@TheFrugalGirl on

    Oh wow, Erin! Big huge congratulations! Enjoy your new little one.

  9. posted by Trish on

    oh how wonderful! congratulations on your new arrival!

  10. posted by Another Deb on

    I was astounded to read that you have a new baby and have been publishing the blog all along. My mental image was of a person typing madly while in labor and clicking “send” just as dialations were culminating. Then I read that it was an adoption, I relaxed back from canonizing you to merely worshiping you again.

    Many happy blessings!

  11. posted by Lose That Girl on

    Congratulations, Erin! No doubt you’re so busy with your little guy so the fact that you have time to post *anything*, well…. I think that’s amazing!

  12. posted by Allison on

    Congratulations Erin!

  13. posted by Emma on

    Congratulations, what wonderful news. I hope your new family is very happy together :) I too am amazed you’re finding the time to post at all!

  14. posted by gypsy packer on

    Congratulations and welcome to your new family member!

  15. posted by Natalie from Western Australia on

    Well congratulations to you all! I’m the mum of two little boys and you have huge amounts of cuddles, kisses and snuggles to look forward to. As well as grey hairs, undereye bags, nappies (diapers) up to your elbows and the obligatory midnight trip to the chemist (drugstore?) for the much needed but oddly missing dummy that you promised you would never let your child have in the first place. Of course, since your house is completely uncluttered you’ll never be in the situation : P

  16. posted by Soochi on

    Congratulations! What wonderful news. Of course, selfishly, I want to continue to read this blog every morning as it’s my absolute fave. I’m sure you’ll manage. Links are cool. Enjoy the bliss and hugs and snuggles and wet kisses.

  17. posted by Jessica on

    This is wonderful news! My two girls are the joy of my life. Parenthood is the most frustrating, beautiful, boring, astonishing, and fulfilling job I have ever known.

  18. posted by Bionic Librarian on

    Congratulations – babies are a blessing :)

  19. posted by Jenn Searls on

    Congratulations!

  20. posted by Jen on

    Congratulations to all of you! What a wonderful time you have ahead.

  21. posted by Felicia on

    Congratulations on your new little man. What a blessing!

  22. posted by whyioughtta on

    Best wishes and congratulations on your growing family!

  23. posted by Celeste on

    Congratulations! You’re in for the ride of a lifetime.

  24. posted by WilliamB on

    Congratulations, good luck, and of course we’ll cut you some slack!

    Frugal Girl Kristen is too modest to mention it, but she had a great post recently about what one does and does not need for a baby. And she should know.

  25. posted by Dawn F on

    How wonderful!!! What a lucky little boy! Congrats to you and your entire family! Staying uncluttered will be a major challenge now! Baby = lots of stuff! Best wishes to your son for a happy, healthy, wonderful, uncluttered life! :)

  26. posted by Kate on

    Congratulations on your new arrival! I am beyond impressed that you are even continuing to post with a new baby in the family! As much as we all love your blog, I, for one would say, don’t worry about us — spend time with your new little guy!

  27. posted by April on

    Best wishes as you embark on this new adventure, Erin! :)

  28. posted by falnfenix on

    congratulations on the kiddo, and an extra congrats for adopting. :)

  29. posted by Kim on

    Congratulations on becoming parents!

  30. posted by Kelly on

    Congratulations from a fellow adoptive mom!! How wonderful!

  31. posted by Alisa on

    Congratulations on becoming parents. It’s a great journey.

  32. posted by momofthree on

    Many Congrats on the BABE!! YA HOO…but just to warn you…a baby’s schedule changes from week to week. It’s one of those things that no tells you until AFTER the baby comes!!

    I am now 4 weeks post op from a total hyster, My Doc found masses in the lady parts during the annual exam. I was sent for an u/s and the radiologist didn’t like what was visible, so then I had a 2 1/2 hour session in an MRI. Masses were determined to be in both the pelvic and abdominal regions.

    Went to a Gyno. Oncologist and was SCARED TO DEATH…cancer was a distinct possibility in and among the lady parts to be removed. My one ovary was the size of a 16″ softball, the other the size of a baseball. My womb was full of fibroids, and my cervix and vaginal tissues also had tumors. All that stuff was biopsied and none of the tumors were cancerous. The masses in my gut turned out to be organs that had been twisted and turned due to the oversized ovaries pushing up and putting pressure on the abdominal stuff…and that stuff was all biopsied…

    I awoke from surgery with the doc telling me that I am 100% cancer free!!! Don’t feel like doing the dance of joy, but if I could, I would. I have a 6′ incision from my belly button on down. (Keep in mind I have a ROSEANNE figure–and never felt anything was wrong–last years annual exam went smoothly, and both last years and this years pap were clear, so just how quickly did these things grow?)

    My doc has told me I truly am the lucky ONE, for nine of ten women who had the same procedure I did wind up with cancer. How did I get to be THE lucky one?
    Don’t know, but I sing the praises that God spared me any more pain EVERY DAY!!!

    My baby making days are now over, but I really don’t care. I have my health, my teenagers are in good health, as is my hubby. I will read Debbie’s book and once again, find money somewhere in my wallet for Breast Cancer Research and support any woman I meet who has been afflicted by this terrible disease!!

  33. posted by J on

    One of my favorite sayings: “Childhood consists of a parent’s longest days and shortest years.” Our “babies” are now 42 and 39 and we would do it all over again! It’s a wonderful adventure–enjoy.

  34. posted by Courtney on

    Congrats! I’m curious to see some posts on family/baby uncluttering! Let me be the first to offer unwanted advice. ;) Here are some books I found valuable.

    What’s Going on in There? : How the Brain and Mind Develop in the First Five Years of Life by Lise Eliot
    Why Love Matters: How Affection Shapes a Baby’s Brain by Sue Gerhardt
    Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves: Transforming Parent-child Relationships from Reaction And Struggle to Freedom, Power And Joy by Naomi Aldort
    Raising An Emotionally Intelligent Child by John Gottman
    Mother Nature: Maternal Instincts and How They Shape the Human Species by Sarah Hrdy
    The Vital Touch: How Intimate Contact With Your Baby Leads To Happier, Healthier Development by Sharon Heller
    Infant Massage–Revised Edition: A Handbook for Loving Parents by Vimala Schneider McClure
    The Scientist in the Crib: What Early Learning Tells Us About the Mind by Alison Gopnik
    What to Expect the First Year, Second Ed by Heidi Murkoff
    Positive Discipline: The First Three Years: From Infant to Toddler–Laying the Foundation for Raising a Capable, Confident Child Jane Ed.D. Nelsen, Cheryl Erwin, Roslyn Ann Duffy

    and something that you’ll particularly appreciate for it’s Uncluttered POV:

    Montessori from the Start: The Child at Home, from Birth to Age Three Paula Polk Lillard

  35. posted by Caroline on

    Yahoo! How wonderful it must be. As you go forward in your journey, I hope you will share your simple living and unclutterer discoveries (more than you already have, of course!).

    Rest well, be kind to one another, and always remember that “this too shall pass” when you feel overwhelmed.

  36. posted by Brown Thumb Mama on

    Congratulations! Our little guy is 4 years old and I truly miss those baby days. You will soon find that while some days are verrrrrry long, the weeks and months go by fast. Enjoy the new love of your life!

  37. posted by Leanne on

    Congratulations! My babies are older now (the first is off to university in a week), but being a Mom has been the best “job” of my life. Enjoy the baby days – they grow up while you’re caught off guard!!!

  38. posted by Beth on

    Oh, big smiles with you as you celebrate this loved one whose life is naw enfolded with yours. Your mind will adapt to (and improve from) the challenges posed to it.
    “A place for everything and everything in its place” will be challenged HARD. Loving, helping and observing the development of the little man will humble and empower you. Wishing all the best for your entire family.

  39. posted by Pammyfay on

    Hooray! SO happy for you and hubby. It will be interesting to see how this new adventure reshapes you!

  40. posted by Liz on

    Congratulations!

  41. posted by Kelly on

    Congratulations to your whole family, Erin! I am 38 weeks pregnant, so we are waiting for our own bundle to join us! Best wishes as you get to know one another :)

  42. posted by Sapphire on

    Congratulations Erin!

  43. posted by Jay on

    Enjoy.

  44. posted by Sky on

    Congratulations and my very best wishes to you, your husband and new little boy. Enjoy everyday with him. I have 4 boys and they are delightful!
    Any chance we will get to see a picture of him and learn his name?
    God Bless!

  45. posted by Bea on

    Congrats to you and your husband, Erin!! He’s a lucky baby. I look forward to hearing about your adventures as a parent who also fights clutter!

  46. posted by Susanne on

    Congrats! I’m an adoptive mom too.

  47. posted by heather on

    Aw, congratulations on your new little man. Your life is about to CHANGE. In a good way, of course!

  48. posted by Julia1060 on

    Congrats to you and your husband and to the hardest worker of all, your wee babe! I wish you a wonderful transition into the coolest thing of all – a family. Enjoy, wonder, and sleep when you can!

  49. posted by stacy on

    congratulations, Erin!
    love the blog!

  50. posted by mhb on

    Congratulations! Your new son is blessed with a wonderful momma!

  51. posted by Sooz on

    Congratulations! Wishing you wonder, joy, and enough sleep!

  52. posted by Jenn on

    Congratulations! I’m a mom by birth and by adoption, and it’s wonderful stuff, no matter how you do it.

  53. posted by Mary on

    Congratulations!!!

  54. posted by Julie Gray on

    So excited for you and PJ – congratulations!! He’s a lucky little guy.

  55. posted by Beth on

    Congratulations from another adoptive mom!

  56. posted by Shiny on

    Congrats!! Wishing your family lots of happiness!

  57. posted by trillie on

    Congratulations! :-)

  58. posted by Karyn on

    Congratulations on the new baby! Squish his cheeks for me. ;-) My sister had a baby in January, which reminded me that the best part of babies is squooshy baby cheeks. That, and how much fun it is to watch them develop from a passive little lump into an observant, curious bundle of awesomeness.

    “…my mind is a bit overwhelmed and original content isn’t flowing.”

    Gee, what a surprise.

    Be reasonable with yourself. Be gentle. Pace yourself. Surely you have someone on your staff (the intern?) capable of stepping into the gap for a week or two?

  59. posted by Leslie on

    Congratulations Erin! Enjoy your new addition!

  60. posted by Org Junkie on

    Congratulations on your new little bundle of joy! How exciting for you. I just received Debbie’s book in the mail and it is just awesome. Can’t wait to review it on my blog.

    Blessings,
    Laura

  61. posted by Sarah on

    Excellent, excellent news!

    Many congratulations and warm wishes!

  62. posted by K on

    Congratulations!

  63. posted by Marie on

    Congratulations, and thank you for providing a loving home to someone in need.

  64. posted by Deanne on

    Congratulations from yet another adoptive mama!

  65. posted by Cate on

    Congratulations!

    I live with a perfectionist so I am interested to see if I can learn some good tips from this book. Thanks!

  66. posted by Robin Mohr on

    Congratulations! My two boys are bigger now, but still taking up valuable blogging time – all those hours at the playground! And worth every minute. But the mental and physical overload is not to be trivialized.

    My book recommendations would be Everyday Blessings: The Inner Work of Mindful Parenting by Jon and Myla Kabat-Zinn and Eileen Flanagan’s Pendle Hill Pamphlet, “God Raising Us.”

  67. posted by Candied Fabrics on

    Congratulations! Enjoy & take lots of pictures – they change so fast, the pictures will help you remember!

  68. posted by Rebecca on

    Congrats on your son, but I must say, I miss your original posts. The links and the guests just aren’t the same.

  69. posted by Suzyn on

    Congratulations!! Even if you have 9 months of pregnancy to “prepare,” no one’s ever REALLY ready for their first child. You’ll figure it out. Enjoy!!

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