Comments on: Do you feel animosity toward others in your home about their disorganization?

By: Juli

Juli — Tue, 15 Jan 2008 16:25:15 +0000

The Unclutterer Blogger said: “For starters, our visions weren’t that different. We both wanted a place for everything in our home. The difference was that I thought we needed a bigger home for all of our things, and he thought we needed fewer things for our current home.”

“….was that I wasn’t doing the few things that he wanted me to do and, as a result, he was dismissing everything else I was doing.”

OH! YOU ARE ME! That is so exactly our situation. Unfortunately, I don’t know how to go about resolving it as easily as you did, since my husband is not big on sit-down discussions - and who has time for them ANYWAY? We do, right now, have a tower of organizing bins (I LOVE THEM, but I may abuse the concept) stacked up, awaiting a final decision and purchase of a shed/barn/somewhere else to put stuff building.

By: 1husband2sons

1husband2sons — Fri, 11 Jan 2008 14:16:55 +0000

All I want is for my family to put away what they use. Is that too much to ask? Most clutter happens when things taken out are not put away. Why is this so daunting a task for some?

By: Kathryn

Kathryn — Wed, 31 Oct 2007 13:22:01 +0000

@Kate

We actually tried out ChoreWars…when I wound up with more experience points than everyone else in our party combined after a few weeks, I found it pretty discouraging on a level that no amount of virtual treasure or gold could counteract.

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By: Erin @ Unclutterer

Erin @ Unclutterer — Tue, 30 Oct 2007 17:24:23 +0000

@Kate — I totally agree!! That site is awesome

By: Kate

Kate — Tue, 30 Oct 2007 17:20:30 +0000

I give you CHORE WARS!!!!

http://www.chorewars.com/

Never had to use it, but doesn’t it look fun

By: Kathryn

Kathryn — Tue, 30 Oct 2007 16:43:33 +0000

I think one thing that helped your strategy work in your situation is that (to oversimplify somewhat) *you* were the one with the problem, and you were the one who took the initiative to come up with some solutions. Things would not have played out the way they did if you hadn’t that lightbulb moment when you realized you were creating unnecessary friction in your life and your marriage. If you’re on the receiving end of someone else’s clutter issues, it can be challenging to nudge them toward their own lightbulb moment.

By: Frank Rosquin

Frank Rosquin — Tue, 30 Oct 2007 15:13:07 +0000

I actually think that this is exactly what is required to make a marriage work.

Not how you did it, but THAT you did it. The fact that you saw a problem, and talked about it.

Well done ^^

By: Little Miss Moneybags

Little Miss Moneybags — Tue, 30 Oct 2007 13:31:50 +0000

This is so important.

I’m definitely more of a neatfreak than any roommate I’ve ever lived with, and it used to really bother me. A few years ago, I decided to let it go–it’s important to ME that things be a certain level of clean, so I have to keep it that way. My relationship with all my roommates since then improved dramatically.

But yeah, it’s still irritating. You know how some people are messy, but not dirty? My roommate is the opposite–she’s not cluttered or disorganized, but she won’t see a dust bunny till it walks up and bites her. She cleans her hamster cages only after I complain (that’s one thing I will NOT do). She has never scrubbed the shower since we moved in together. I try not to dwell on it, because if I lived alone, I’d still have to do the same work that I’m doing now, and it makes ME happy to have a sparkly bathroom or kitchen. That she benefits is a lucky break for her, but I can’t be resentful about the amount of work that I’m doing or we won’t be able to live together.