Comments on: Trash the dress! http://unclutterer.com/2007/06/27/trash-the-dress/ Daily tips on how to organize your home and office. Sat, 21 Nov 2009 08:04:26 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.6 hourly 1 By: Rick Harvey http://unclutterer.com/2007/06/27/trash-the-dress/comment-page-1/#comment-1397 Rick Harvey Wed, 04 Jul 2007 22:17:26 +0000 http://development.unclutterer.com/2007/06/27/trash-the-dress/#comment-1397 Check the mud TTD album here. These are in Denmark by a great mud photographer <a href="http://www.pbase.com/theo" rel="nofollow">http://www.pbase.com/theo</a> I also would love to shoot pics at a TTD near St. Louis or? rickchris91@centurytel.net Check the mud TTD album here. These are in Denmark by a great mud photographer http://www.pbase.com/theo I also would love to shoot pics at a TTD near St. Louis or? rickchris91@centurytel.net

]]> By: dress stasher http://unclutterer.com/2007/06/27/trash-the-dress/comment-page-1/#comment-1396 dress stasher Fri, 29 Jun 2007 20:23:45 +0000 http://development.unclutterer.com/2007/06/27/trash-the-dress/#comment-1396 I'm going to take some wild crazy fun artsy shots of our boxed up dress to submit to www.stashthedress.wordpress.com I’m going to take some wild crazy fun artsy shots of our boxed up dress to submit to http://www.stashthedress.wordpress.com

]]> By: Jaime http://unclutterer.com/2007/06/27/trash-the-dress/comment-page-1/#comment-1395 Jaime Fri, 29 Jun 2007 16:28:30 +0000 http://development.unclutterer.com/2007/06/27/trash-the-dress/#comment-1395 I gave mine to Goodwill last year. It was hard, but I'm happy I don't have to deal with it anymore. I gave mine to Goodwill last year. It was hard, but I’m happy I don’t have to deal with it anymore.

]]> By: Sue http://unclutterer.com/2007/06/27/trash-the-dress/comment-page-1/#comment-1394 Sue Fri, 29 Jun 2007 15:02:21 +0000 http://development.unclutterer.com/2007/06/27/trash-the-dress/#comment-1394 I cut up a friends wedding dress and made it into a christening dress (now been used twice) and each time I have embroiderded the babys name inside the hem.Much easier to store!!! I cut up a friends wedding dress and made it into a christening dress (now been used twice) and each time I have embroiderded the babys name inside the hem.Much easier to store!!!

]]> By: Jey http://unclutterer.com/2007/06/27/trash-the-dress/comment-page-1/#comment-1393 Jey Fri, 29 Jun 2007 12:34:19 +0000 http://development.unclutterer.com/2007/06/27/trash-the-dress/#comment-1393 I was married on 5/5/07. It was a gorgeous wedding, we had a wonderful time and we took amazing pictures! Our photographer utilized all of the standard pictures, from ceremony to portiture to reception. On 6/16/07 I trashed my dress and it was awesome!!! We had our bridal party get together on the beach, all dressed up and we trashed them too!!! We took about 200 shots in the sand and the water and they are amazing too!!! Look for them on trashthedress.com!! I can't tell you how surreal it is to be able to wear your wedding dress twice. We went to dinner at an ocean front restauraunt and you get that feeling of being beautiful when everyone in the place is whispering and looking and telling you "beautiful", "i love that dress" etc. Girls, you know what I'm talking about. Once on the beach we started slow, took some pictures on the sand. Then we just "jumped in"! It was so liberating the first time a big wave came up behind us and I felt the train of the dress get washed up toward the shore. There is a great picture of my husband looking at me to make sure I was still OK with it, because it was done and I am just laughing with a huge smile!! Priceless. I did a lot of thinking and as a lot of people their opinions and no one, not one person told me to do nor told me not to do it. When it comes down to it your daughter will not wear it. In this world of fashion, and millions of unique designs and styles she will want one that is as unique and beautiful as she is. I suggest saving the veil, she may want to utilize that but I doubt she will want the dress...you didn't want your mother's! All it's going to do is sit in a box or bag stuffed (not even hung carefully) in a closet or attic or basement and you'll never look at it again. Why not have as much fun with it as you can?? I plan on making some pillows with it also to keep as accents in my dining room, it will look gorgeous with our formal china dishes!! Hope this gives all the skeptic brides out there some ideas. Check out trashthedress.com for some great shots!! My myspace webpage is posted and some of the shots are on there! Feel free to email me is you need some cheerleading! Good luck and have freakin' fun with it!!! YOU WILL LOVE IT!!! I was married on 5/5/07. It was a gorgeous wedding, we had a wonderful time and we took amazing pictures! Our photographer utilized all of the standard pictures, from ceremony to portiture to reception. On 6/16/07 I trashed my dress and it was awesome!!! We had our bridal party get together on the beach, all dressed up and we trashed them too!!! We took about 200 shots in the sand and the water and they are amazing too!!! Look for them on trashthedress.com!! I can’t tell you how surreal it is to be able to wear your wedding dress twice. We went to dinner at an ocean front restauraunt and you get that feeling of being beautiful when everyone in the place is whispering and looking and telling you “beautiful”, “i love that dress” etc. Girls, you know what I’m talking about. Once on the beach we started slow, took some pictures on the sand. Then we just “jumped in”! It was so liberating the first time a big wave came up behind us and I felt the train of the dress get washed up toward the shore. There is a great picture of my husband looking at me to make sure I was still OK with it, because it was done and I am just laughing with a huge smile!! Priceless. I did a lot of thinking and as a lot of people their opinions and no one, not one person told me to do nor told me not to do it. When it comes down to it your daughter will not wear it. In this world of fashion, and millions of unique designs and styles she will want one that is as unique and beautiful as she is. I suggest saving the veil, she may want to utilize that but I doubt she will want the dress…you didn’t want your mother’s! All it’s going to do is sit in a box or bag stuffed (not even hung carefully) in a closet or attic or basement and you’ll never look at it again. Why not have as much fun with it as you can?? I plan on making some pillows with it also to keep as accents in my dining room, it will look gorgeous with our formal china dishes!! Hope this gives all the skeptic brides out there some ideas. Check out trashthedress.com for some great shots!! My myspace webpage is posted and some of the shots are on there! Feel free to email me is you need some cheerleading! Good luck and have freakin’ fun with it!!! YOU WILL LOVE IT!!!

]]> By: Sean LaFianza http://unclutterer.com/2007/06/27/trash-the-dress/comment-page-1/#comment-1392 Sean LaFianza Fri, 29 Jun 2007 06:39:33 +0000 http://development.unclutterer.com/2007/06/27/trash-the-dress/#comment-1392 re:mugsy man, you're really angry aren't you? i'm a wedding photographer trying to make ends meet for my family of four. The money people "throw away" on my work feeds my family. As erin has said she has a stain on the back of her dress, how is she going to use her dress from this point forward? She obviously has a respect for art and photography as an artistic medium, is that for you to dictate? If a high-art session is $200 while having fun doing something creative and non-traditional, so be it! People can "throw away" $200 on dinner at a fancy restaurant perhaps they should have gone to mcdonalds instead, after all food is food. Yet that chef went to culinary school for many years and you just ate the best mahi-mahi money can buy... people charge a certain rate for a reason and also because there's a customer base to support it. As for the wedding industry "finding one more way to rip people off", you may want to look into the wedding industry a bit more and realize how much work goes into any facet of it be it photography, videography, catering... the only person who does their job and goes home with no post production work is the DJ but he does tons of work before the event. Each bride i work with is a 40-60 hour commitment from start to finish. I love my job, i love working with brides but it is a labor of love, seldom is someone going to 'make it rich' exploiting the wedding industry as you seem to think. re: Erin! We'd love to see your images when their done! re:mugsy

man, you’re really angry aren’t you? i’m a wedding photographer trying to make ends meet for my family of four. The money people “throw away” on my work feeds my family. As erin has said she has a stain on the back of her dress, how is she going to use her dress from this point forward? She obviously has a respect for art and photography as an artistic medium, is that for you to dictate? If a high-art session is $200 while having fun doing something creative and non-traditional, so be it! People can “throw away” $200 on dinner at a fancy restaurant perhaps they should have gone to mcdonalds instead, after all food is food. Yet that chef went to culinary school for many years and you just ate the best mahi-mahi money can buy… people charge a certain rate for a reason and also because there’s a customer base to support it.

As for the wedding industry “finding one more way to rip people off”, you may want to look into the wedding industry a bit more and realize how much work goes into any facet of it be it photography, videography, catering… the only person who does their job and goes home with no post production work is the DJ but he does tons of work before the event. Each bride i work with is a 40-60 hour commitment from start to finish.

I love my job, i love working with brides but it is a labor of love, seldom is someone going to ‘make it rich’ exploiting the wedding industry as you seem to think.

re: Erin! We’d love to see your images when their done!

]]> By: Mugsy http://unclutterer.com/2007/06/27/trash-the-dress/comment-page-1/#comment-1391 Mugsy Thu, 28 Jun 2007 21:23:45 +0000 http://development.unclutterer.com/2007/06/27/trash-the-dress/#comment-1391 Um, don't you already have enough pictures of you in your dress? Why waste even more money having more pictures taken? Seems like the "wedding industry" has found even more ways of ripping people off. But you seems pretty happy about throwing your money away anyway. Good grief people. Haven't you ever heard about charity or saving your money? Trashing the dress seems so wasteful and disrespectful. ("I'm so rich I can buy an expensive dress, wear it once and then completely destroy it. All with a photographer snapping away. Aren't I cool?") Just more and more evidence that the world is going to hell in a handbasket. Why not just make a big pile of money and set that on fire? Maybe you can hire a photographer to take a picture. Sounds like a good use of resources. Geez! Um, don’t you already have enough pictures of you in your dress? Why waste even more money having more pictures taken? Seems like the “wedding industry” has found even more ways of ripping people off. But you seems pretty happy about throwing your money away anyway.

Good grief people. Haven’t you ever heard about charity or saving your money? Trashing the dress seems so wasteful and disrespectful. (”I’m so rich I can buy an expensive dress, wear it once and then completely destroy it. All with a photographer snapping away. Aren’t I cool?”)

Just more and more evidence that the world is going to hell in a handbasket. Why not just make a big pile of money and set that on fire? Maybe you can hire a photographer to take a picture. Sounds like a good use of resources.

Geez!

]]> By: Rochelle http://unclutterer.com/2007/06/27/trash-the-dress/comment-page-1/#comment-1390 Rochelle Thu, 28 Jun 2007 20:15:39 +0000 http://development.unclutterer.com/2007/06/27/trash-the-dress/#comment-1390 To all you people that say donate the dress...I had no intention of spending $$ on new wedding dress and planned to wear "something nice". But at the nagging of friends, I checked out some thrift stores. In a very short time, I literally saw hundreds and hundreds of wedding dress. There is NO SHORTAGE of used wedding dresses. So if someone wants to make art, have fun and possibly ruin their one wedding dress, I hardily encourage it! Personally, I think it is a wonderful example of the joie de vivre the world could use more of. FYI-I ended up buying a gorgeous silk dress for $30 in Palm Springs. To all you people that say donate the dress…I had no intention of spending $$ on new wedding dress and planned to wear “something nice”. But at the nagging of friends, I checked out some thrift stores. In a very short time, I literally saw hundreds and hundreds of wedding dress. There is NO SHORTAGE of used wedding dresses. So if someone wants to make art, have fun and possibly ruin their one wedding dress, I hardily encourage it! Personally, I think it is a wonderful example of the joie de vivre the world could use more of.
FYI-I ended up buying a gorgeous silk dress for $30 in Palm Springs.

]]> By: Nathania http://unclutterer.com/2007/06/27/trash-the-dress/comment-page-1/#comment-1389 Nathania Thu, 28 Jun 2007 18:45:15 +0000 http://development.unclutterer.com/2007/06/27/trash-the-dress/#comment-1389 I agree with those who say DONATE THE DRESS! Please try and do that first! Find someone who can remove the stain! Also - encourage bridesmaids to donate dresses to low-income students for their proms! I agree with those who say DONATE THE DRESS! Please try and do that first! Find someone who can remove the stain!

Also – encourage bridesmaids to donate dresses to low-income students for their proms!

]]> By: Sarah Paul http://unclutterer.com/2007/06/27/trash-the-dress/comment-page-1/#comment-1388 Sarah Paul Thu, 28 Jun 2007 17:14:55 +0000 http://development.unclutterer.com/2007/06/27/trash-the-dress/#comment-1388 I think alot of you are missing the point. The idea is to take something that will PROBABLY never be used again and create something that will be beautiful for many years. It's a gift to many husbands to prove that their wives have no intention of ever wearing that dress again, or a prize to the bride who has spent months stressing out for one day. I'm having a destination wedding in December with a reception in January, and you better believe that I have all intentions of trashing my dress afterwards! I think alot of you are missing the point. The idea is to take something that will PROBABLY never be used again and create something that will be beautiful for many years. It’s a gift to many husbands to prove that their wives have no intention of ever wearing that dress again, or a prize to the bride who has spent months stressing out for one day. I’m having a destination wedding in December with a reception in January, and you better believe that I have all intentions of trashing my dress afterwards!

]]> By: Veronica H. Davis http://unclutterer.com/2007/06/27/trash-the-dress/comment-page-1/#comment-1387 Veronica H. Davis Thu, 28 Jun 2007 14:43:52 +0000 http://development.unclutterer.com/2007/06/27/trash-the-dress/#comment-1387 A bit dismayed reading the above. I agree that there is no need to store a wedding dress. Styles, wants & needs change. Instead of the above suggestions, why not donate it for reuse by some lucky bride-to-be? The cloth & lace has value for someone. I am not a crafter. Without expending excessive time at all, I made a christening outfit, using the pretty collar and front of the dress, cut off the wonderful buttons and since used them ... No clutter. The magic of the dress may be gone with no need nor room to keep it. Memories are locked in our minds, souls & pictures; but, to sit in water gathering moss, sounds pretty inane--benefits only the photographer. Seems a rather poor use of purpose & money. A bit dismayed reading the above. I agree that there is no need to store a wedding dress. Styles, wants & needs change. Instead of the above suggestions, why not donate it for reuse by some lucky bride-to-be? The cloth & lace has value for someone. I am not a crafter. Without expending excessive time at all, I made a christening outfit, using the pretty collar and front of the dress, cut off the wonderful buttons and since used them … No clutter. The magic of the dress may be gone with no need nor room to keep it. Memories are locked in our minds, souls & pictures; but, to sit in water gathering moss, sounds pretty inane–benefits only the photographer. Seems a rather poor use of purpose & money.

]]> By: Bryan http://unclutterer.com/2007/06/27/trash-the-dress/comment-page-1/#comment-1386 Bryan Thu, 28 Jun 2007 13:23:23 +0000 http://development.unclutterer.com/2007/06/27/trash-the-dress/#comment-1386 Oh ya, AWESOME site BTW! I need to de-clutter VERY bad. -Bryan Oh ya, AWESOME site BTW! I need to de-clutter VERY bad. -Bryan

]]> By: Bryan http://unclutterer.com/2007/06/27/trash-the-dress/comment-page-1/#comment-1385 Bryan Thu, 28 Jun 2007 13:16:51 +0000 http://development.unclutterer.com/2007/06/27/trash-the-dress/#comment-1385 If you are in Michigan and want trash-the-dress photos shoot me an email: bryan@bryanmitchell.com If you are in Michigan and want trash-the-dress photos shoot me an email: bryan@bryanmitchell.com

]]> By: Jill http://unclutterer.com/2007/06/27/trash-the-dress/comment-page-1/#comment-1384 Jill Thu, 28 Jun 2007 04:12:37 +0000 http://development.unclutterer.com/2007/06/27/trash-the-dress/#comment-1384 My first wedding dress, cost a small fortune (10% of my overpriced wedding) and I ended up sending it to the dump when I moved avec my second husband. I couldn't give it away -and trust me I was looking for a fat poor bride to take it! My first wedding dress, cost a small fortune (10% of my overpriced wedding) and I ended up sending it to the dump when I moved avec my second husband. I couldn’t give it away -and trust me I was looking for a fat poor bride to take it!

]]> By: Jude http://unclutterer.com/2007/06/27/trash-the-dress/comment-page-1/#comment-1383 Jude Thu, 28 Jun 2007 04:04:49 +0000 http://development.unclutterer.com/2007/06/27/trash-the-dress/#comment-1383 I have the dress from my first wedding. My mother made it. The material cost $50, and she used the leftover material to make a shirt for my fiance that would fit over his back brace (he was in a wheelchair). I think it's the prettiest dress I've ever seen. It's also machine washable and eminently practical. I've lent it for a high school production of Fiddler on the Roof and even though I don't fit in any longer and the marriage ended decades ago, I have no problem keeping it because to me it's okay to keep a few beautiful things. Perhaps some day my daughter will wear it, but even if she doesn't, I'm keeping it. I have the dress from my first wedding. My mother made it. The material cost $50, and she used the leftover material to make a shirt for my fiance that would fit over his back brace (he was in a wheelchair). I think it’s the prettiest dress I’ve ever seen. It’s also machine washable and eminently practical. I’ve lent it for a high school production of Fiddler on the Roof and even though I don’t fit in any longer and the marriage ended decades ago, I have no problem keeping it because to me it’s okay to keep a few beautiful things. Perhaps some day my daughter will wear it, but even if she doesn’t, I’m keeping it.

]]> By: Ally http://unclutterer.com/2007/06/27/trash-the-dress/comment-page-1/#comment-1382 Ally Thu, 28 Jun 2007 01:51:36 +0000 http://development.unclutterer.com/2007/06/27/trash-the-dress/#comment-1382 I donated my dress, veil, and shoes to a local charity. My feeling was that I had my day in it and I wanted to give another woman the chance to feel beautiful and special on her wedding day--her economic situation shouldn't hold her back. I had the best feeling all day after I donated the dress. I donated my dress, veil, and shoes to a local charity. My feeling was that I had my day in it and I wanted to give another woman the chance to feel beautiful and special on her wedding day–her economic situation shouldn’t hold her back. I had the best feeling all day after I donated the dress.

]]> By: Sarah http://unclutterer.com/2007/06/27/trash-the-dress/comment-page-1/#comment-1381 Sarah Thu, 28 Jun 2007 00:12:37 +0000 http://development.unclutterer.com/2007/06/27/trash-the-dress/#comment-1381 I'm going to "Trash the Dress." I sent the site to a girlfriend a week ago, she's in San Diego, and she went to the TTD Party, out there. She loved it. Has great pics and says that the dress wasn't "ruined." It was wet, it was a bit dirty but still usable. I say, trash it but not too bad then donate it. Can you tell I'm a "Have your cake and eat it too" kind of person? :D I’m going to “Trash the Dress.” I sent the site to a girlfriend a week ago, she’s in San Diego, and she went to the TTD Party, out there. She loved it. Has great pics and says that the dress wasn’t “ruined.” It was wet, it was a bit dirty but still usable. I say, trash it but not too bad then donate it. Can you tell I’m a “Have your cake and eat it too” kind of person? :D

]]> By: Jacki Hollywood Brown http://unclutterer.com/2007/06/27/trash-the-dress/comment-page-1/#comment-1380 Jacki Hollywood Brown Wed, 27 Jun 2007 22:26:13 +0000 http://development.unclutterer.com/2007/06/27/trash-the-dress/#comment-1380 I don't know where the notion came from that women had to save their wedding dresses. My Nanny told me that her mother cut up her wedding dress to make baptismal gowns for her children. I still remember her saying: Use it up, wear it out, make it do, do without. I guess we have become spoiled in our affluent society. I don’t know where the notion came from that women had to save their wedding dresses. My Nanny told me that her mother cut up her wedding dress to make baptismal gowns for her children.
I still remember her saying:
Use it up, wear it out, make it do, do without.
I guess we have become spoiled in our affluent society.

]]> By: Cyrano http://unclutterer.com/2007/06/27/trash-the-dress/comment-page-1/#comment-1379 Cyrano Wed, 27 Jun 2007 22:22:53 +0000 http://development.unclutterer.com/2007/06/27/trash-the-dress/#comment-1379 "It had chocolate icing smeared down the front of it, a bourbon and coke stain on the train, and half of its lining ripped out as a result of my husband’s superb dancing skills." Sounds like one hell of a honeymoon ;) “It had chocolate icing smeared down the front of it, a bourbon and coke stain on the train, and half of its lining ripped out as a result of my husband’s superb dancing skills.”

Sounds like one hell of a honeymoon ;)

]]> By: s http://unclutterer.com/2007/06/27/trash-the-dress/comment-page-1/#comment-1378 s Wed, 27 Jun 2007 21:14:40 +0000 http://development.unclutterer.com/2007/06/27/trash-the-dress/#comment-1378 Many people think that when you "trash the dress" you LITERALLY trash it to pieces, when in reality, most of the photos are really in water and mud/etc, and with a good cleaning, CAN still be usable and donated. I know a bride who did this - wore it, trashed it in photos, and is cleaning it to be donated. She even claimed that after getting in the water with it, it's cleaner than it was originally! So you can still get wonderful photos and donating the dress too. Many people think that when you “trash the dress” you LITERALLY trash it to pieces, when in reality, most of the photos are really in water and mud/etc, and with a good cleaning, CAN still be usable and donated. I know a bride who did this – wore it, trashed it in photos, and is cleaning it to be donated. She even claimed that after getting in the water with it, it’s cleaner than it was originally! So you can still get wonderful photos and donating the dress too.

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